Monday, May 19, 2014

It's simple jealousy and here's why

In the years that I have learned since being the mother of a transgender child, I've often found myself questioning what I did, how can I make it better, etc. But the only real answer to this is accept that life always brings us twists and turns that we aren't expecting. Especially when it comes to parenthood. No matter the books, the advice given to you from older generations, and social networks there is no real answer as to how to raise them. What to expect as they grow. I know I wasn't prepared to go from birthing a male child that ultimately is now my daughter.

Lately, however I have been seeing articles and other forms of conversation discussion transgender people and their rights in our society. Honestly, I can't understand where the confusion lies in why they shouldn't have the same legal, protective rights as all of us. They pay their taxes, they do their jobs, simple right? And yet, there is this stigma behind fear, lack of education, and the whole "it's against my bla bla bla".

I sat back and thought on this deeply over the past few weeks and I've boiled it down to simple jealousy.

Definition of jealousy: jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself. 

Transgender people, my daughter, they know who they are. Yes, their bodies are different than what is in their heart, but there are many of us who while we match our outward forms to our inner feelings, are so damn confused about what we want, who we should be, etc. that it must make some of us very jealous to know that they are able to connect on such a deeper level.

Not just that, but also that inner strength to come out into a world that is weak in its own right in various ways and yet they are there, going against the grain, the machine, the man. My daughter is one of the strongest people I know. She taught me true courage and a different type of parenting that I'd never have done. She only transitions in her appearance, her soul is already there. Me? I had to align my mind, my soul, and everything in between so that I could catch up to her.

How amazing is she and how much I needed to follow HER lead.

We don't like change. Majority of us as a human species and that's what we seem to struggle with in this instance. It's the same as marriage equality. These are people who want the same respect and rights as others and they know themselves. How dare they!

Somewhere inside, perhaps there is a resentment of their success and advantages because they are secure. Whereas, most of the world struggles just figuring out what the heck they're going to do when they wake up in the morning.

It's just a thought to plant in your mind. Think on it.