Saturday, January 29, 2011

Mohawks are for girlies too!

So, before the birth of Hyperion, I had a mohawk. I loved it and miss it. So much so, I will get it back eventually. It's totally me. Lucien also has one now and it's totally cute on him. The other day, Trinity approached me and told me she wanted her hair just like Willow Smith or Scary Spice's little girl. In other words, she wanted a mohawk. So, what did I do? Hey, I'm the mom who lets my children make their choices about their bodies.


Trinity's new 'do off to the side :D

Sunday, January 9, 2011

I won't stop loving you, even on my weaker days

Trinity,

A mom, that is what I am, but I am also a human who has her weaknesses. Yes, this is not something you want to hear and know, but I will not want to have you think otherwise. I want you to understand that weakness on my part is my way of taking time to understand more. Taking time means better awareness. Better awareness means strength in advocacy. And I do this all for you. 

Weakness is strength. And when I have my moments of weakness, when you see my tears glistening in my eyes, know, who you are is not the reason. I love you, I always will. It will never cease. You are my all. You are my heart. You are my courage. So when I have my moments of weakness, know that when I look at you, I regain my strength.

Friday, January 7, 2011

If it's taken you this long, you really have problems

My little girl will be 8 years old this October and that would make it going on 5 years that she has said she was a girl and 3 years since transitioning. When it comes to change, it takes 30 days to break a habit and adapt. I'm going to say that 3 years surpasses 30 days, yet my family still has "trouble" accepting and remembering pronouns.

I'm sick and tired of correcting, trying to make Trinity understand people make mistakes. Well no more, because these aren't mistakes, these are calculated ways of hurting her and our family. Saying things like, "Well she was pushed into this." or "Xavier, I mean..." aren't accidents after 3 LONG years.

No more will I allow this and now when it happens, I'll give them a piece of my mind and then throw them out of my house and life until you can get their act together. I am a mother to a beautiful little girl, nothing less than that. And I will be protecting her from as many negative things as possible, including those closest to her.

That is all.