Thursday, September 17, 2009

Sometimes it can just break your heart

The other day, Trinity was playing princess and pirate with her little brother, Lucien. They were having a good time. While they were playing, I was having conversation with Chris. We were quietly talking about all that had changed over the past years with both our children and it just so happened, Trinity overheard us call her a boy.

She was quite upset and corrected us. And we realized, she's almost six and very much aware of things so it was time to tell her a little bit about her medical condition. We told her that when she was born, she was a little boy just like her little brother, but her heart and soul was a little girl's. She listened intently and waited until we finished then said,

"Maybe I had a boy body, but I've never been a boy."

And she ran off to play again. It's just amazing and sometimes breaks our hearts because we know that as she gets older, we will have to tell her again and again, until she finally does understand. But for now, she is just simply a little girl. No more, no less.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Indecision is one of my biggest pet peeves

It has been over a year now since Trinity's social transition and my mother and family STILL flip flop from being supportive to being doubtful that this is something really going on. It's not helpful for any of us here! I sometimes can not understand how accepting your family, no matter how different they are, is the hardest thing to do for some people, but it is.

What is really getting to me, is the question of, "what did you do that has made your child this way?" and "I think it's odd that you're the only one out of all of us in the family with this problem." First of all, it took me quite some time to realize this had NOTHING to do with me thank you very much. And secondly, she is NOT a problem nor what she is a problem.

I just want to say, you're either in or out. You can't be in the middle after a year of learning, researching, and witnessing this. Figure it out guys!